In today’s episode, Jeff Boss dives into the topic of mining the hunt, and facing our fears and conflicts head on in order to make the uncomfortable comfortable again.
Mine the Hunt.
Episode 24: Show Notes.
Like it or not, we are all hunters. The hunt is a challenge; it’s a problem to be solved, it’s an obstacle that needs to be avoided, or would rather be avoided. Why do challenges and obstacles often want to be avoided? Because facing them is just uncomfortable. Facing the hunt is not easy; but then again, nothing good every is. The thing is, facing something uncomfortable is actually the only way to feel comfortable again. You do not conquer a fear by ignoring it; you conquer a fear by facing it. That which impedes us, actually empowers us. In today’s episode we explore facing conflict and the story about Marcus Aurelius and his motivations behind writing his formula for success. What he wrote was a formula for conquering negativity, not just inspire of a setback, but because of it. It’s a formula for turning a setback into a success and for forging clarity out of chaos.
We are all, hunters.
The "hunt" is a challenge; it's a problem to be solved or an obstacle that people want to avoid why?
because facing it would be uncomfortable.
Facing the hunt, isn't easy. But then again, nothing good ever is.
The thing is, facing something uncomfortable is the only way to feel comfortable,
that which impedes us, also empowers us.
In the year 170, the emperor of the roman empire, Marcus Aurelius--known as the last of the 5 good emperors--sat down to write.
He took the time to write not for anybody else, but for himself; to create clarity from the chaos he faced being an emperor and doing emperor things
(and if you're unclear on the difference between being and doing then I refer you to episode 21)
What Marcus Aurelius wrote wasn't an insight, it wasn't a journal entry privy to him only to be forgotten about.
What he wrote was a formula for success--for excellence, in anything you do.
It's a formula for conquering negativity not just in spite of a setback or bad news, but because of it.
It's a formula for turning a setback into a success and for forging clarity out of chaos.
What he wrote, was this:
“Our actions may be impeded...but the impeding to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.”
Now, I'm paraphrasing exactly what he wrote but this is the main point,
And this is exactly what it means, to "mine the hunt."
When you "mine" for something you search for it, you excavate it, you unearth something that may not have been visible previously, but, by mining it, you bring it into awareness,
And awareness is always half the battle.
When you're aware of something, that means you can A) measure it and B) manage it,
Because what gets measured gets managed and what gets managed, gets improved.
Or put another way, what gets MINED, gets measured, which gets managed which gets improved.
And the cycle repeats.
BUT, the cycle of improvement ONLY repeats if you consciously…
MINE the hunt.
The "hunt," is your target.
It's your objective.
It's whatever "thing" is in your way. It could be self-defeating belief, a skill you need to learn, a conversation you need to have but fear it.
Here's why "mining" that fear or discomfort or whatever that "hunt" is, is so important…
When you actually face the discomfort, you build the awareness that A) the problem is completely manageable and B) it builds your stress tolerance TO be comfortable with being uncomfortable
Facing discomfort is exactly what allows you to create comfort.
Whenever we pursued a target in the military we did so because the alternative would be to let that target proliferate and conduct evil.
Was it comfortable approaching a target at night knowing you might get shot, your buddy might get hit or simply NOT KNOWING what to expect?
I'm not gonna lie--it was exciting, but I wouldn't say it was comfortable.
It was uncomfortable but pursuing that discomfort and eradicating the target was exactly what brought comfort for us and for national security.
The same is true when YOU'RE uncomfortable; when there's negative emotions or your mad, sad, angry or depressed about something.
You build awareness by naming it and writing it.
I'm serious here. Name the emotion and write down exactly what's causing it.
When you name it, you place an identity to it and actually see that…you know what? This isn't as important as I thought.
You create comfort by mining the hunt.
When you're working out and you're tired and you want to stop,
Or you set the alarm and you tell yourself that you're gonna get up but don't,
THAT'S when you need to mine the hunt because THE END is what matters, not the moment.
And I know in episode 19 we talked about process vs. product goals and why process goals are important,
You can actually apply a process goal here because the process will lead you to where you want to go--the process is getting up, the process is pushing yourself in the gym, the process is being comfortable with being uncomfortable. THAT'S the process, but it's not the moment.
I was asked last week by somebody this question: "How do you manage pain? How did you manage the discomfort of hell week, of all that 'pain' and work through it?",
And my response was this:
I look at pain--physical pain--intellectually vs. emotionally. And by that, I mean that whatever "pain" you experience whether it be during a hard run, a workout circuit, a conversation,
Whatever "pain" exists, won't last. It'll be over very soon.
So, if pain is only short term, that means it's temporary, which means it doesn't really matter.
The short term is just that--short term, which means it'll be over soon.
And if it'll be over soon, then worrying about it now, doesn't matter either. It's an act in futility because the moment will pass.
The moment, doesn't matter.
What does matter is the long term--you're vision of yourself, your goals, the place where you see yourself ideally after having "survived" the short term and the PROCESS that will get you there because THAT'S where you want to be and THAT'S a long term focus.
Mine the hunt. Mine the discomfort of the short term to produce the comfort of the long term.
And you can also apply this concept of mining the hunt for teams because there are two types of discomfort. There's positive discomfort and negative discomfort.
Positive discomfort is when there's an uncomfortable discussion with somebody that you know MUST be had.
It probably feels uncomfortable in the moment, but it probably also felt like a breath of fresh air after the fact. There's CLARITY in next steps, expectations, whatever that discussion produced.
Positive discomfort is rooted in trust because people WANT to challenge each other's assumptions, beliefs, and opinions because it's for a greater cause which is to ENABLE the team.
The fact is, people want to know where they stand with you. It's when they don't know where they stand with you, with others, with the team, that distrust emerges, and that leads to…
Negative discomfort exists when teams avoid conflict all together, which only prolongs the problem.
When conflict isn't rooted in trust, that's when false truths arise, when people say one thing and do another, or when they have the follow-on hallway conversations AFTER the meeting because they didn't want to face conflict DURING the meeting.
The problem gets passed down or on to others and it proliferates.
When there's unhealthy conflict in a team and you want to make healthier, you need to…mine the hunt…
When somebody crosses the discomfort line from positive to negative, or from constructive feedback to destructive? Call it out. Nip it in the bud right then and there with a question like, 'How does that serve the purpose or the team or the task ?"
By using a question, you place the onus on the other person to justify why s/he felt compelled to add his/her two cents, which now gives you insight into how they think and what they need to be an active and positively contributing member of the team.
By bringing conflict into the limelight, you actually enable greater team trust because, as I said in episode 15, the best way to build trust, is to extend it.
And you do so in a team setting the same way as I mentioned earlier: by naming it, because when you name the conflict in the open, what that does is it squashes any unsaid or unexplored tensions.
Kind of like when you're telling a joke and somebody beats you to the punchline, it takes away from the funniness of the joke. That joke is no longer funny and you just look stupid, so, be sure to thank that person.
Anyway, you build greater trust and you actually create the opportunity for members to openly communicate, contribute, discuss and say whatever needs to be said WITH THE TEAM rather than in the hallway after the team meeting by,
Mining the hunt.
And you mine the hunt by looking for conflict and raising it to the group or team's awareness. I'm not saying create conflict--although that is an effective strategy sometimes--I'm saying speak to your observations.
And I'm not going to go into this right now, I think it's the topic of a future episode because there's a lot to talk about when it comes to group and team dynamics,
But suffice to say that oftentimes what goes unsaid, is more important than what is.
And if you don't have any conflict within your team then I would venture to ask, "Why not?" Because THAT'S NOT HEALTHY.
Speaking of teams, I'll be doing a webinar March 23rd on creating team clarity. If navigating team or organizational chaos is something you want to learn how to deal with more effectively, then please go to
Join me March 23rd for a webinar on Creating Team Clarity. It's free, space is limited, and you can sign up at www.chaosadvantage.com/training
Key Points From This Episode:
* Hear the motivations behind why Marcus Aurelius wrote to create clarity from the chaos of being an emperor.
* Why Marcus Aurelius’ writings were a formula for success and excellence.
* Learn what it means to mine the hunt, and how to unearth what is buried.
* Understand why awareness is half the battle, and how it helps to create clarity.
* Discover why “the hunt” represents anything that stands in your way.
* Why mining the fear and facing the discomfort is critical in building awareness and tolerance.
* Learn the benefits of naming a fear and writing it down.
* Understand how to apply a process goal to become comfortable being uncomfortable.
* Find out why the process is not the moment, and that the moment does not matter.
* Why the long term focus is critical in mining the hunt.
* Discover the two different types of discomfort; positive and negative discomfort.
* Learn how to build greater trust by mining the hunt in a team setting.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
The ChaosCast Episode 21 ? http://www.thechaoscast.com/21-stop-worrying-about-yourself-doing-vs-being-the-me-vs-we-connection/
The ChaosCast Episode 19 ? http://www.thechaoscast.com/19-dont-focus-on-the-product-focus-on-this/
Building High Performing Teams Webinar – http://www.chaosadvantage.com/training