#21: Stop worrying about yourself, doing vs being, the me vs we connection

#21: Stop worrying about yourself, doing vs being, the me vs we connection

In this episodes, Jeff Boss discusses the common tendency to dislike being received in a negative light and the courage it takes to step outside of your comfort zone.

In Plato’s Protagoras he used the analogy of warped wood to describe behavioral corrections. He stated that when a piece of wood is warped and you want to bend it back the opposite way, you need to apply pressure in the opposite direction. The same is true with what you are uncomfortable with in life. One thing people typically dislike is being received in a negative light. Nobody wants to be the bad guy; delivering negative feedback just isn’t ideal. It’s easy to do the things that we’ve always done because that’s how the wood bends. When it comes to going against the grain of that wood, it takes some serious force to bend that wood in the opposite direction. It takes effort, courage, and humility. It takes a willingness to suppress that which you want to be defined by and instead open your mind, heart, and will to writing that definition yourself.


Key Points From This Episode:


  • Hear Plato’s warped wood analogy and how it applies to stepping out of our comfort zones.
  • Find out why the unwillingness to be courageous leads you to stay out of the spotlight.
  • Why not giving feedback for fear of how you will feel is an exercise in ego and selfishness.
  • Learn how to identify the battle, and acknowledging the areas where you need to improve.
  • Discover why the ability to self-evaluate is one of the most important skills to master.
  • Understand the importance of identifying your priorities when making important choices.
  • Learn why it is okay to criticize the performance, but not the person and their competence.




“You can’t be without doing, and you can’t do without being.”  @JeffBoss9 [0:03:06].0]


“There is no such thing as the right time. Only the right choices that we make in time.”  @JeffBoss9[0:04:38].0]


“You can’t move ahead if the finish line isn’t drawn, or if you don’t trust others along the way.”  @JeffBoss9[0:10:35.0]



Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

The ChaosCast Episode #2 ? http://www.thechaoscast.com/02-navigating-chaos-curiosity-questions-and-momentum/

The ChaosCast Episode #15 ? http://www.thechaoscast.com/15-trust-ego-we-and-me-output/
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